12 of the Best Christian Dating BooksDec 29, 2021
If you are looking for the best Christian dating books, you’re in the right place.
I spent the majority of my life following the world’s ways when it came to dating, so you can imagine my surprise when I started learning about how to approach dating in a godly way.
When it came to biblical or Christian dating, I had no idea what was off limits and what was okay.
I spent so many nights on my couch reading these Christian books about dating and relationships, and God showed me all the mistakes I had been making when it came to dating.
These Christian relationship books helped me truly understand God’s intent when it came to sex, dating, and relationships.
Here are 12 of the best Christian dating books I recommend for anyone who is single or currently dating, including my top Christian dating books for young adults.
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Top 4 of the Best Christian Dating Books
If you are brand new about learning about Christian dating, or want to get serious about dating in a way that honors God, I recommend reading the three Christian dating books below.
These books CHANGED MY LIFE and I would never have been able to surrender my dating life (and my sex life) to God without them.
These Christian books on dating gave me so much hope that it IS possible to date in a way that honors God, while meeting a decent guy.
And for all my friends in their 20s, these are great Christian dating books for young adults to read as well.
#1 - Sex and the Single Christian Girl: Fighting for Purity in a Rom-Com World
By Marian Jordan Ellis
This is my #1 recommendation for Christian books about dating that I recommend for anyone who is single or dating.
While the book talks a lot about sex, we all know that sex, or the decision not to have sex until marriage, is a big deal when it comes to dating and relationships.
If you are struggling with purity or understanding why it’s important to wait until marriage to have sex, this is the book for you.
If you aren’t sure which Christian dating book to read first and are struggling to understand what the Bible says about sex, start with this book and let me how God speaks to you through it.
Grab your copy of Sex and the Single Christian Girl
#2 - Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex
By Michael Todd
Relationship Goals is my #2 best Christian dating book I highly recommend.
Michael Todd, an author and pastor of Transformation Church, has such a gift of talking about Christian dating and relationships in the most relatable way I’ve ever heard a pastor preach.
This book bridges the gap between what culture says about sex and dating, and what God says about dating in the Bible.
And if you’ve ever wondered what are soul ties, or how to break ungodly soul ties, this book breaks it down in a way that will make you want to wait until marriage to have sex again.
I love Michael Todd’s sermons on Christian dating and soul ties. If you are struggling with sex before marriage, watch this sermon about soul ties.
Grab your copy of Relationship Goals
#3 - Outdated: Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed
By Jonathan "JP" Pokluda
If you’re ready to trade the world’s way of dating for what actually works, this is the book for you.
Outdated explains God’s purposes for singleness, dating, and marriage and talks about why you should date, who you should date, and how you should date.
This book exposes the dating myths, misconceptions, and fairy tales of the world and explains what God really intended when it comes to dating and marriage.
I WISH I read this book when I was single or in the dating scene.
I recently read it as I was studying Christian dating, and Outdated is my #3 Christian books about dating recommendation for anyone who wants to be intentional with dating in a way that honors God.
Grab your copy of Outdated
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#4 - Trusting God with Your Love Story: A 6-Session Bible Study on Singleness & Dating
By Erin Elise Kiu
If you've been looking for a Bible study that focuses on how to date and pursue marriage in a godly way, this is the book for you.
Written just for single ladies, Trusting God with Your Love Story studies scriptures and stories in the Bible that will help ladies:
- Trust God's timing for marriage, even when you feel like giving up
- Embrace being single as you prepare to meet your future husband
- Pursue healing and freedom from past relationships with men
- Have confidence as you step out in faith to date and meet other single men
- Live out God’s design for love and marriage
If you want to discover the plans God has for your love life, this Bible study book will help you pray and study specific areas of singleness, dating, and marriage that will position yourself to hear from God.
Other Best Christian Dating Books I Recommend
When I first gave my life to Jesus and was learning about godly dating, I struggled to find good books on dating or blogs out there that addressed the hard questions I had about dating and sex.
But over the past few years, I’ve done a lot of research (and reading) on Christian dating, and below are other Christian dating books I recommend for anyone who is single or dating.
Some of these Christian books on dating also address sex and purity, but if you’re only looking for books that talk about sex and purity, check out my top recommendations for Christian purity books.
Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality
By Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal
You know all those tough questions you have about sex or sexual struggles, but are afraid to talk about?
Well thanks to the Girl Defined sisters, they address those awkward, embarrassing questions we have about sex.
This Christian relationship book addresses the tough questions when it comes to sex, including:
- Porn and masturbation, and how to approach these topics in a way that honors God
- God’s purpose for our sexuality
- How to handle sexual desires as a single woman
- Dealing with shame or guilt from sexual sin
- How to overcome lust and temptation
Even though this book addresses tough questions when it comes to sex, Girl Defined’s audience is perfect for young women in their 20s, making this one of my top Christian dating books for young adults.
Grab your copy of Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart
The Wait: A Powerful Practice for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You Love
By DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good
This is another one of my favorite Christian dating books and purity books for men and women.
I was so inspired by DeVon’s and Meagan’s testimony, and how they had both previously had sex, but then had decided to wait until marriage to have sex again.
I read this when I was first learning what the Bible said about sex, and when I doubted whether waiting until marriage was actually possible.
But if celebrities like Devon and Meagan could wait until marriage to have sex, then I could to right?
The Wait will show you that waiting—rather than rushing into sex and a serious relationship—can help you find the person God has for you.
Grab your copy of The Wait
By Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal
This was one of the first Christian relationship books I read when I decided to follow God’s ways when it came to sex, dating, and relationships.
While the Girl Defined sisters didn’t have quite the sexual past as I did, I appreciated how they broke down what sex, dating, and love was supposed to be like according to the Bible with several Bible verses and scriptures to back it up.
This book covers a lot of topics when it comes to Christian dating, such as:
- God’s definition of love
- Red flags to look out for in dating
- God’s design for sex
- How to be just friends with guys
I also liked how this book talked about the importance of being equally yoked in dating, and only dating and marrying other Christians.
The Girl Defined authors write for younger women in their 20s, making this book another great dating book for young adults.
Get your copy of Love Defined
Thank You for Rejecting Me: Transform Pain into Purpose and Learn to Fight for Yourself
By Kait Warman
If you are healing from a breakup or from rejections from past relationships, this is the book for you.
This book will help answer the questions, ‘God, why did they reject me? Why didn’t it work out?’
Sometimes in order to move forward in the dating world, we need to heal and address the wounds from our past.
Grab your copy of Thank You for Rejecting Me
When God Writes Your Love Story
By Eric and Leslie Ludy
If you’re struggling to let God write your love story, this book will give you hope and encouragement that God knows what he is doing when it comes to dating and relationships.
I loved listening to Leslie Ludy’s podcast when I first gave my life to Jesus, and her story gave me so much hope that God really is the ultimate matchmaker.
Learn why God’s ways when it comes to dating leads to the relationship you’ve been seeking, and why the world’s ways of dating will never satisfy the longing of your heart.
This book is ideal for young women in their teens or 20s, making it one of my top Christian dating books for young adults.
If you’re in your late 20s or above, or have already had sex in your past relationships, I would recommend reading Relationship Goals or Sex & the Single Girl instead.
And if you want to see how God brought me my husband, learn how to trust God with your love life and how he answered my prayers for a godly husband.
Grab your copy of When God Writes Your Love Story
Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age
By Ben Stuart
If you’re looking to understand God’s design and purpose in all seasons of relationships, this is the book for you.
I like how this book addresses each of the 4 stages (singleness, dating, engagement, and marriage) and how to make the most out of each season.
When I was single, I was in a rush to get married, but now as a married woman, I appreciate how this book focuses on preparation, and God’s purpose in each season.
This is another top recommendation for Christian relationship books.
Grab your copy of Single, Dating, Engaged & Married
Christian Dating Books - Prayer Journals
If you are looking for more of a prayer journal on dating and preparing to meet your future husband, below are a few prayer journals I recommend.
While these aren’t your typical Christian relationship books, these prayer journals will help guide you as you prepare to have healthy relationships and include prayers for your future husband.
And if you are looking for a free resource to pray over your future husband, join the free, 14-day attract your future husband to receive 14 days of Bible verses, devotions, and prayers to pray over yourself & your future husband as you wait for God to bring you together.
31 Days of Prayer for Your Future Husband
By Jennifer & Aaron Smith
If you want to be intentional with praying for your future husband, this Christian dating book is the book for you.
It includes 31 different prayers to pray over your future husband, along with space to journal your own prayers or thoughts as you reflect on each topic.
If you loved the free, 14-day attract your future husband challenge, you’ll love the guided prayers and journal prompts in this book.
When I was trusting God with my love life, I started journaling my prayers for this certain guy I liked.
Even though I was praying for God to confirm that he was the one, there were days I was so certain that he was my husband that I even wrote letters to this guy in this book.
Thanks to God, this guy finally asked me out almost seven months later, and God did confirm that he was my husband.
I was able to share these prayers with my husband on our honeymoon and it was so special to look back on how we were praying for each other.
As you pray and journal in this book, check out signs he’s the one God has for you and pray that God will confirm who your future husband is.
Grab your copy of 31 Days of Prayer for Your Future Husband
Every Single Moment
By Stephanie May Wilson
This book includes 100 different topics to pray over as you prepare to meet your future husband.
While the book includes topics and questions to consider as it relates to dating and meeting your future husband, I appreciate how the book also includes several topics and questions to pray over as it relates to singleness, and becoming the best version of yourself now before you meet your future husband.
If you like to journal and write your own prayers, you’ll love this book.
I like how the book includes 100 days of questions to consider, but each day only includes a few questions or topic to pray and reflect on, and gives you the space to write out your own prayers.
Grab your copy of Every Single Moment
Scripture cards for single ladies
If you want to meet your future husband, then you’ll love these scripture cards for single women.
These scripture cards include the Bible verses and positive affirmations I prayed and declared the most when I was waiting on God for my husband.
These prayers and scriptures got me through all those lonely Friday nights, and all those days where I felt like giving up on waiting for my husband.
If you are feeling discouraged being single or frustrated that you haven’t met your husband yet, these are the scripture cards for you my friend.
Do you want to meet your future husband?
Join the free, 14-day attract your future husband for 14 days of devotions and prayers to pray over yourself and your future husband.
This prayer challenge includes the Bible verses and prayers I prayed the most as I waited on God to bring me my husband. And all the dating mistakes that God revealed that were holding me back for so long.