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13 Christian Purity Books for Women

dating & relationships Nov 05, 2021

If you are looking for Christian books on purity, you’re in the right place.

Below are 13 purity books I recommend for anyone looking to understand God’s design for sex, or for women who are looking to walk in sexual purity in today’s sex-saturated culture.

Even if you are struggling with lust, these books on lust and books on sexual purity will help you learn how to overcome temptation and overcome sexual sin.

And if you grew up in the purity culture, where you learned that sex before marriage was bad and that you should cover up as much as possible to avoid sex, I also share my top purity culture books or books about purity culture that will help provide a biblical perspective on how to think about sex and purity.

Even if you don’t know why purity is important, these books about waiting until marriage will help you see God’s design for sex in a whole new light and will help give you the desire and strength to wait until marriage to have sex.

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How These Purity Books Changed My Life

Before I share the Christian books on purity that I recommend reading if you want to wait until marriage to have sex, I need to tell you about my background with sexual purity, or the lack thereof.

I almost didn’t choose to follow Jesus because I didn’t want to stop having sex.

Growing up, I didn’t have a relationship with God and I didn’t think it was a big deal to have sex before marriage. All my friends were having sex, so I never questioned it.

You can imagine my surprise when I started studying the Bible and realized that sex before marriage really was a big deal.

I didn’t think it was possible to overcome my sexual past, but after surrendering this area to God and reading many purity books like the ones listed below, God gave me the strength to overcome my sexual past and walk in freedom.

If you are struggling with purity, you are not alone my friend.

I pray these books on sexual purity speak to you and that God gives you the strength and self-control to overcome any temptation that comes your way.

Purity is possible, and it is worth it.

And if you want a resource to help you overcome temptation while you walk in purity, download my free, 7-day resisting temptation devotional with the prayers and Bible verses I prayed the most that helped me stand strong when I was tempted.

Christian Purity Books

These are my top Christian books on purity. As I learned what the Bible said about sex, these books helped me understand God’s design for sex, and how to break off all the lies and myths culture had taught me about sex (including the ungodly soul ties that I had formed).

And if you are new to this whole purity thing, I’m so glad you’re here.

I spent many Friday nights on my couch alone reading these purity books when I had a broken heart from a lost relationship.

I had been approaching dating and sex following the world’s playbook for most of my twenties, but these purity books helped me understand why God’s playbook when it came to sex and purity was so important.

Sex and the Single Christian Girl: Fighting for Purity in a Rom-Com World

by Marian Jordan Ellis

Out of all the purity books, this is the #1 purity book that I recommend for anyone who is struggling with sexual purity, or is still trying to understand why it’s important to wait to have sex until marriage.

I love how this book compares and contrasts how the world views sex, with God’s design for sex in the Bible.

And I love how this book even talks about soul ties, and what happens to our brains and bodies when we have sex.

If you’re not sure which Christian books on purity to get, start with this one and let me how God speaks to you through it.

Grab your copy of Sex and the Single Christian Girl

Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex

by Michael Todd

Relationship Goals is one of my favorite purity books and books on Christian dating and relationships.

Michael Todd has such a relatable and refreshing way of approaching sex and purity in the church.

And I love how he talks about soul ties, the bond or attachment that forms between two people when they have sex.

This book is a must read for anyone struggling to do things God’s ways when it comes to sex and dating, and for anyone who wants to be set free from the ungodly soul ties that have entangled their love life.

Side note: Michael Todd’s sermons on godly dating and soul ties are a must watch.

Grab your copy of Relationship Goals

Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality

by Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal

If you’ve been afraid to talk about sex or the shame you’ve felt from sexual sin, this is one of the best Christian books on purity that I recommend.

And if you’re struggling with lust and looking for books on lust to help you overcome temptation, this is the book for you.

Kristen & Bethany explore answers to some of the toughest questions Christian women have when it comes to sex and purity, including:

  • Struggles with porn or masturbation
  • The purpose of sexuality
  • What to do with sexual desires as a single woman
  • How to deal with shame from sexual struggles

Girl Defined also talks about these topics a lot through their Girl Defined YouTube channel.

Grab your copy of Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart

The Wait: A Powerful Practice for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You Love

by DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good

I loved how DeVon and Meagan described their own struggle and journey with sexual purity. I was so inspired by their story, thinking that if celebrities like them could wait until marriage to have sex, then maybe I could too. This was one of my favorite purity books for women.

This book will help you understand that waiting—rather than rushing into sex and a relationship—can help you find the person you’re meant to be with.

If you want to be inspired by a couple who had a sexual past and chose to wait until marriage to have sex again by setting physical boundaries, this book is for you.

Grab your copy of The Wait

The Wait Devotional: Daily Inspirations for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You Love

by DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good

A daily devotional for those who are waiting and trusting God with the person they are supposed to be with.

This 90-day devotional includes scripture, prayers, and devotions with practical advice on how to navigate dating, love, and relationships as you wait on God to write your love story.

Grab your copy of The Wait Devotional

Sex and the Single Girl

by Dr. Juli Slattery

Sex and the Single Girl is a purity book on sex that goes beyond the church’s response to “just don’t have sex.”

This book will equip single women to understand their sexuality, trust the Lord for redemption and healing, and stand against the cultural trends that marginalize and compromise God’s design for sex.

If you’re struggling with lust or resisting temptation, this is one of the best books on lust and overcoming it.

Perfect for any single women learning to understand God’s design for sex, this purity book talks about:

  • Why sexuality matters
  • How to embrace God’s design for sex
  • How sexuality plays a role in our identity
  • Sexual boundaries as it relates to oral sex, masturbation, and how far is too far
  • How to stand strong against sexual temptation
  • How to restore intimacy with God after sexual shame, confusion, and sin

Dr. Juli Slattery combines research and studies about sex with biblical wisdom, making it one of the top Christian books on purity for women.

Grab your copy of Sex and the Single Girl

Love Defined

by Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal

If you are looking to understand sex and relationships in a way that God intended, this book is for you.

Love Defined talks about all aspects of sex, dating, and romantic relationships, and why it’s important to follow God’s Word in these areas.

If you are looking to learn more about purity and Godly relationships overall, I recommend reading this book as it talks about more topics in addition to sexual purity.

Get your copy of Loved Defined

One Transforming Love

By Erin Elise Kiu

If you love reading fiction books, this book is for you. One Transforming Love is actually inspired by my own testimony of how I struggled to give up sex before marriage to follow Jesus.

If you want to follow God, but are struggling with sexual sin, this book is a must as I share how hard it was for me to surrender my sex life to God.

A must read for any young woman who is struggling to live set apart for God when it comes to sexual temptation.

You can order the hardcopy here from Fun & Holy, where you can take 20% off with code ‘ONELOVE’.

Or you can grab the One Transforming Love eBook on Amazon.

The Chase: Trusting God with Your Happily Ever After

By Kyle & Kelsey Kupecky

The Chase is one of the best purity books for girls, or for young women learning about purity in junior high or high school.

Kyle & Kelsey share how God wrote their love story, and how they were able to wait until their wedding night to have sex.

Their experience and stories will resonate with girls who are learning about purity, or who are struggling to stay set apart in this area compared to the world’s culture.

Get your copy of The Chase

Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot

By Mo Isom

I read this when I was struggling to understand why sexual purity was important, and I admired how vulnerable Mo Isom got when sharing her own story and testimony of sexual sin.

She talks about the issues that the church refused to talk about, and how to embrace God’s design for sex in a way without feeling shameful.

Get your copy of Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot

Purity Culture Books

If you grew up in the purity culture, where the church hardly talked about sex and only told you that sex was bad, these books about purity culture are for you.

Learn how to talk about sex in a healthy way and understand God’s design for sex in these purity culture books.

Sex isn’t bad; it’s a beautiful gift. And my hope and prayer through these books is that you can learn how to overcome any shame, guilt, or confusion as it relates to sex.


Talking Back to Purity Culture: Rediscovering Faithful Christian Sexuality

by Rachel Joy Watson and Scott Sauls

If you grew up in the purity culture and want to redefine how you view sex in a biblical and healthy way, this book is for you.

The authors talk about what to do if you’re struggling with the purity culture; specifically:

  • How the purity culture idolized virginity
  • Mixed messages about modesty and lust
  • The promise of a healthy marriage and sex life for those who follow the rules.

Get your copy of Talking Back to Purity Culture

The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

by Sheila Wray Gregoire

This book is for married couples or couples that are looking to get married. If you grew up in the purity culture and fall into these categories, this is another top recommendation for books about purity culture.

If you’re wondering why sex is bad in your marriage and you’re worried that it’s your fault, this book is a must read.

The Great Sex Rescue addresses the question, what do you do if you grew up with bad teachings of sex, and you’re already married?

This book talks about the teachings you may have learned about sex from growing up in the purity culture, that are actually harmful to your sex life in marriage.

Learn how to view sex in a health way in marriage, and how to experience the kind of intimacy that God intended for your marriage.

Get your copy of The Great Sex Rescue

Waiting for Your Purity Books to Arrive and Want to Learn More About Purity?

We talk a lot about sexual purity and how to overcome sexual sin at Fun & Holy.

If you are struggling with temptation, download my free, 7-day devotional on resisting temptation.

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